2/09/2009

Dan and Sarah in Love Park


Sarah's family took she and Dan to participate in a commercial to promote the city of Philadelphia. In Love Park, couples were asked to make out to capture the essence of brotherly love. Click here to see a photo gallery from the shoot. Just scroll through and you'll find Dan and Sarah hamming it up on the second photo of the second page.

Sarah is a great girlfriend for Dan but he's even more fortunate her family takes such an active and supportive role in their relationship. When Dan started dating Sarah, it was as though Dan's mom started dating Sarah's mom. Making plans, coordinating driving to and from dates, keeping an open line of communication, these responsibilities are naturally not left to Dan and Sarah alone. Any and all success for what Dan and Sarah have must be credited to their parents.

As a ventriloquist, I've been to shows and conventions where there are other ventriloquists. Sometimes another vent will have his puppet strike up a conversation with mine. Several times I've found myself obliging in a rather awkward back and forth between my puppet and theirs. I'm not trying to imply that Dan and Sarah are puppets but that many strings are pulled by those around them and it can be a delicate dance for both our families to perform.

Dan and Sarah usually do the dreaming while Diane and Rita decide whether it jibe's with reality. Just about every day, Dan tells my mom some form of plans he's made with Sarah. He then insists her mother has confirmed said plans, even that she's coming to pick him up. Without fail, my mother calls Sarah's to find she is unaware of any plans.

There's also quite a balancing act when it comes to Dan and Sarah's physical intimacy. A number of mothers are appalled that Dan and Sarah make out in some of his scenes. One mother of an adult with Down syndrome told my mom, "My daughter won't be watching THOSE videos. She won't be going near boys of any kind in any such way". She failed to recognize that her daughter is no longer a child. Dan and Sarah's mom understand that these two young adults deserve all the trappings of a normal healthy relationship and strive every day to provide them with just that.

6 comments:

My name is Sarah said...

Beautiful. I love it.

Kele said...

Ode to your Mom and Rita! Dan and Sarah are so cute together and YES, they deserve all the happiness any typical couple deserves!!

Lianna said...

Wow, your post really hit on some realities that I haven't thought about. At first, I didn't get it when you wrote about your mother and Sarah's mom dating! LOL! But it completely makes sense. I think it's important to have them facilitate what Dan and Sarah want to do when they're not sure about how to get it done.

I like that your mom understands and respects that Dan is a man. I can see this part of Gabe's life as being difficult for me. And if I can learn anything from your writing it would be to see my son as who he is. Of course, I know lots of moms of typical young men who have the same amount of difficulty letting go of their "little boy".

Anyway, it is good to read some new posts. I hope that Dan is transitioning well now that high school is done.

Heather said...

Oh you're making me contemplate our future again. We have a son with DS, he is 19 months old. We wonder about his future alot but we try to live in the moment more. I'm not the Mom that wouldn't let my son have a realtionship, but seeing Dan and Sarah does make me wonder how I would react and if I could be accepting in that situation! I hope so!

I'm glad I found you today, it's nice to see families like ours.

veronica said...

thank you for posting this.

it's nice to see.

All 4 My Gals said...

Great post Will because there are parents in our community who don't allow their children to take on adulthood. They deserve ALL the respect that any human deserves. Thanks for sharing this!